If you really love children, do n’t “captive” them
Classmate Zhang is a primary school student. Due to family economic conditions, his home is at a highway exit, and there is a lot of traffic when going out. His parents consider the safety of their children.Can stay in their own small yard and watch the ants fight.
Recently, my mother found that classmate Zhang was often bored, as if she was always unhappy, and asked him why, he couldn’t tell.
Parents are very anxious and think whether the child has a psychological problem.
Student Zhang has indeed formed some psychological problems.
This tendency to shrink back and be lonely is partly because he has been “captive” for a long time, lost the opportunity to play with his peers, and his social ability has gradually deteriorated.
Children need partners and games, especially their peers who are chasing and playing together, and need play space.
There is a comparative study: a foreign scientist and a Chinese scientist raise their children separately, and foreign scientists let the children go to the sand, play in the mud with the children, and go home dirty, while Chinese scientistsLet children learn mathematics and recite Tang poetry, and they have acquired a lot of knowledge at a young age, but which child is happier?
The answer is self-explanatory.
Children need to play, and they need to be treated as children instead of small prodigies. Children’s play is like adult work and study, which is the child’s “task”.
Children who lose their game function, no matter how good they are, they are not a complete child and often show psychological problems during adolescence.
Parents may also have difficulties. For example, Zhang’s parents, they will feel that they are also to protect the safety of their children, to prevent their children from having traffic accidents, and to prevent their children from encountering bad people, but these are all excuses.
If parents really understand the reason for their children’s growth, even for the sake of protecting their safety temporarily, they must take their children out to visit relatives and friends in their spare time outside of work to help their children make friends.
In fact, Zhang’s parents have a strong sense of insecurity. They always feel what to do when they encounter bad people, and how other children bully their own children. These fears will be passed on to Zhang, making him dare everywhere., Even dare not speak out in his own heart, how can such a child have no psychological problems?
So, return the game and partner to the child. The child needs to grow up in a free environment.
Even if our education, ideas, and economic conditions are still not satisfactory, we should not take these as reasons for making mistakes with children. Children’s psychological problems often need parents to grow up first, and then bring the children to grow.very important.
When your child has been in captivity, it may take double the love and patience of the parents to get back the child’s mental health.
So, for parents, why not pay attention to their children’s interactions and games at the beginning?
After all, we can’t wait for the further progress of the entire society, but we must first start with our own dolls.